I read somewhere that it is not hard to make a decision once you know what your values are. That got me thinking about what my values really are? What would be the principles I would like to stand by when I am put to a test?
And then I came up with the following list. Hoping this will keep me honest!
And then I came up with the following list. Hoping this will keep me honest!
[Tolerance] Every person is different - it is hard to measure using one yardstick. Every time someone drives me nuts, I try hard to hold off on reacting immediately and as I wait I start gathering more perspective and with that comes more self rationalization. Eventually, I may still react, but it's way more mild and acceptable to the recipient. I was not always this way, speaking my mind is something I am known for but people who have and still see/deal with me all the time will know that I have come a long way and take lot more in my stride.
[Honesty] Folks around me must have heard me say this - when you hit the bed in the night, your heart needs to feel light for you to sleep well. I absolutely endorse this. If you are dishonest to someone you are dishonest to yourself and that will affect your quality of sleep for sure. If you have a conscience that is. And if you are someone like me who spends a lot of time thinking.
Also, when someone asks for my opinion I tell them the truth. Sometimes honesty is brutal but I believe if you've been asked you should say it. I am brutally honest and more often than not I am hated for it on the face of it, but over the many years every time someone wants real feedback they say they are better off coming to me. I am really equally receptive to feedback.
I personally am always genuine in my compliments. Fake compliments I find insufferable. When I don't have a genuine compliment I try to shut up. No compliment is better than a fake one.
[Effort] Giving all your responsibilities an honest try is something I want to embody. If you are an employee, a husband, wife, a mother, a colleague, a manager, whatever; give that role an honest effort - it will bring the best out of you. If you still fail, move on, don't suffer a role you are not cut out for, do the world a favor...
[Good Listening] I want to be a genuine listener when someone is talking to me or sharing something with me. If I am distracted, I want to say it's not a good time. But if I am there physically, I want to be there mentally as well 100%. I am still somewhat far from being able to do this well. Also, I try to jump to solutions too fast. I need to remember that several times all someone is asking for is that I listen, not provide solutions!
[Ability to accept a mistake] We all make mistakes all the time. We try new things and fail, sometimes other are impacted. I like to say sorry so I can accept and move on. I feel I can be a much larger person if I don't drag out the wrong move and live in denial. Every time I say sorry, the air clears up.
[Gratitude] People are always doing things around us, small and big. If we are able to recognize that, be grateful and show our gratefulness, the happiness quotient in the world will go up. Also, it will extend the potential of giving forward...
That's my list. Do you have one?
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